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Vegetarianism

                                   Vegetarianism

One should not judge the purity or impurity of man simply by observing what eats.

In the Amagandha sutta, the Buddha said:

                     “   Neither meat, nor fasting, nor nakedness,

                      Nor shaven heads, nor matted hair, nor dirt,

                      Nor rough skins, nor fire-worshipping,

                      Nor all the penances here in this world,

                      Nor hymns, nor oblation, nor sacrifice,

                      Nor feasts of the season, Will purify a man overcome with doubt. ”

Taking fish and meat by itself does not make a man become impure. A man makes himself impure by bigotry, deceit, envy, self-exaltation, disparagement and other evil intentions. Through his own evil thoughts and actions, man makes himself impure. There is no strict rule in Buddhism that the followers of the Buddha should not take fish and meat. The only advice given by the Buddha is that they should not be involved in killing intentionally or they should not ask others to kill any living being for them. However, those who take vegetable food and abstain from animal flesh are praiseworthy.

Though the Buddha did not advocate vegetarianism for the monks, He did not advise the monks to avoid taking ten kinds of meat for their self respect and protection. They are:

*humans

*elephants

*horses

*dogs

*snakes

*lions

*tigers

*leopards

*bears

*hyenas. Some animals attack people when they are smell the flesh of their own kind.(vinaya pitaka)

When the Buddha was asked to introduce vegetarianism amongst His disciples (monks) by Devadatta, one of His disciples, the Buddha refused to do so. As Buddhism is a free religion, His advice was to leave the decision regarding vegetarianism to the individual disciple. It clearly shows that the Buddha had not considered this as a very important religious observance. The Buddha did not mention anything about vegetarianism for the lay Buddhists in His Teaching.

Jivaka komarabhacca, the doctor, discussed this controversial issue with the Buddha:  ‘ Lord , I have heard that animals are slaughtered on purpose for the recluse Gotama, and that the recluse Gotama knowingly eats  the meat killed on purpose for him. Lord, do those who say animals are slaughtered on purpose for the recluse Gotama, and the recluse Gotama knowingly eats the meat killed on purpose for him. Do they falsely accuse the Buddha? Or do they speak the truth? Are your declarations and supplementary declarations not thus subject to be ridiculed by other in any manner?’

‘ jivaka, those who say: ‘ Animals are slaughtered on purpose for the recluse Gotama, and the recluse Gotama knowingly eats the meat killed on purpose for him’, do not say according to what I have declared, and they falsely accuse me. Jivaka, I have declared that one should not make use of meat if it is seen, heard or suspected to have been killed on purpose for a monk. I allow the monks meat that is quite pure in three respects: if it is not seen, heard of suspected to have been killed on purpose for a monk.’(jivaka sutta)

In certain countries, the followers of the Mahayana school of Buddhism are strict vegetarians. While appreciating their observance in the name of religion, we would like to point out that they should not condemn those who are not vegetarians. They must remember that there is no precept in the original Teachings of the Buddha that requires all Buddhists to be vegetarians. We must realize that Buddhism is known as the Middle path. It is a liberal religion and the Buddha’s advice was that it is not necessary to go to extremes to practice  His Teachings.

Vegetarianism alone does not help a man to cultivate his humane qualities. There are kind, humble, polite and religious people amongst non-vegetarians. One should not condone the statement that a pure, religious man must practice vegetarianism.

On the other hand, if anybody think that people cannot have a healthy life  without taking fish and meat, it does not necessarily follow that they are correct since there are millions of pure vegetarians all over the world who are stronger and healthier than the meat-eaters.

People who are criticize Buddhists who eat meat do not understand the Buddhist attitude towards food. A living beings need nourishment. We eat to live. As such a human beings should supply his body with the food it needs to keep him healthy and to give him energy to work. However, as a result of increasing wealth, more and more people, especially in developed countries, eat simply to satisfy his greed for meat, this is wrong. But if one eats without greed and without directly being involved in the act of killing but merely to sustain  the physical  body, he is practicing self restraint.

                                                                                                                                  (what Buddhists believe, ven, k. sri dhammananda,1987)

HOW TO LEAD A MARRIED AND FAMILY LIFE

The institution of marriage is the socially recognised union between a man and a woman that serves to legitimise their children. The official union of a man and a woman is common in every modern society and helps to ensure that children have a secure upbringing. Human beings have recognised marriage relationships for thousands of years,but marriages based on free choice and love are more common today. In previous centuries arranged marriages were usual; they are common in non-western societies, with relatives negotiating an advantageous match for both families. Monogamy (marriage to one person at a time) is the general rule, although some countries allow polygamy, where a man has more than one wife at a time . Polyandry, where a woman takes several husbands simultaneously, is rarer but exists.

Love is the passionate and abiding desire, on the part of two people, to produce together conditions under which each can self- to produce together an intellectual soil and an emotional climate in which each can flourish, far superior to what either could achieve alone. marriage is one of the most fundamental and enduring so true marriage, man and woman think more of social institutions.

In a true marriage, man and woman think more of the partnership than they do of themselves. It is an interweaving of interests and facing of sacrifice together for the sake of both. A feeling of security and contentment comes from mutual effort.

A family is defined as a group of persons united by the ties of marriage, or adoption, constituting a single household, and interacting with each other. Some from of family organisation is found in all human societies, although there are great variation in the type of families in different societies.

A family in the simplest terms, is the union of a man and a woman along with their offspring. usually living in a private and  separate dwelling. this type of living arrangement, more specifically known as the nuclear family, is believed to be the oldest of the types of families in existence.

what people want when they are married

A wife needs:

Tenderness, courtesy, understanding, fairness, loyalty, honesty, and good companionship.

A husband needs;

Love, Attentiveness, family, obligations, faithfulness, understanding, loyalty, proper food and to be calmed when he is in bad mood.

MARRIAGE IS A BLESSING

Marriage is a blessing but many people turn their married lives into a curse.

GIVE AND TAKE POLICY

 marriage is a give and take affair. the husband gives his wife everything he makes and she takes it.

~Henry Morgan~

(the real meaning of the give -and -take policy is to compromise)

The Benefits (Advantages) of Loving Kindness

One who practice loving kindness and compassion experiences eleven benefits that arises from the emancipation of the heart, associated fondly, developed, made much of, made a habit of, made a basis of, effected or experienced, practice, well started. What are the eleven? By practicing loving kindness and compassion:

1. one sleeps well, 2. one wakes up well, 3. one does not see bad dreams, 4. one is well-liked by human beings, 5. one is well-liked by non-human beings, 6. one is protected by the deities, 7. one is protected from fire, poison and weapons, 8. one’s mind becomes calm immediately, 9. one’s face brightens, 10. one attains death in mental clarity, 11 one goes to the Brahma World if he one does not comprehend full enlightenment. Therefore, please practice more and more loving kindness and compassion.

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HAPPINESS OF LIFE

The Search for Happiness.

Modern life is a struggle-a struggle to gain monetary rewards, comfort and luxury. Instead of bringing happiness, this lifestyle brings anxieties and stress, there are important moments in everyone's life when all material things are of little value when compared to the mental or spiritual joy of detachment from worldly things.

In living a lay life, the importance of economic welfare for leading a good life cannot be understand. we should not pretend  that people can be happy if they are starving and living under miserable conditions. poverty and living in slum areas can stifle human happiness. It is a wretched life in the slums if a large family has to live, eat, sleep and procreate in one small hut. The wretchedness of the environment and the desperate lives of the residents  therein can often make such areas a breeding place for vice and bitterness-unless it comprises a community of saints who seek peace in poverty.

However, it is useful to remember that wealth and poverty, happiness and misery, are all relative terms.One person may be rich but unhappy; another may be poor but happy. wealth is a blessing if rightly and wisely used. But part of the tragedy of the poor is their selfish desire for material things. If their cravings are not fulfilled, they live with resentment. the tragedy of the rich is their inability to rise above their wealth. they cling to their wealth foolishly. Hence happiness is not found in either case, with the poor or the rich.

Some people think that a good and congenial life partner is a source of happiness. It may be so to some extent. Other people think that children are another source of happiness. But these are not stable conditions either. A life partner can die or leave them, while some children could bring more sorrow than happiness to their parents.

We should learn to be contented and happy with what little we have which has been bestowed on us. We should even be happy and contented with our present state of being even though we are not fortunate enough to be bless with the least of our humble expectations.

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